It’s taken more than we expected, and revealed more than we imagined. Here’s how we got here.

2009
I experienced a miscarriage during college—an unknown pregnancy that left a quiet but lasting mark on me. I didn’t talk about it, but it quietly reshaped how I moved through the world. I began changing my habits—not out of preparation for motherhood, but out of fear that it could happen again before I was ready. I told myself it was about control, about safety. But really, it was about grief I hadn’t yet named.

2018
After years of unexplained symptoms and pain, even with the IUD, I was diagnosed with endometriosis stage 2 in late 2018.

Early 2019
I had my first surgery for endometriosis. It brought some answers and some healing—but also started conversations with doctors that would shift my timeline.

April 3, 2021
Drew and I got married, filled with joy, hope, and cautious conversations about what starting a family might look like.

2021
We decided to have my IUD removed and we began “not trying, but not preventing.” Quietly hopeful.

June 2022
After almost a year of “trying” we had our first fertility appointment with my primary OBGYN. That early, vague anxiety started to take shape. After it “just happening” before, I was concerned on why it wasn’t easy for us to get pregnant.

Early 2023
We were fully, officially Trying to Conceive (TTC). Cue charts, apps, supplements, and a whole new world of heartbreak and hope.

2023 (Round 2 Bloodwork)
More tests, more waiting.

December 2023
A possible miscarriage—too early to confirm, but late enough to hurt. We grieved quietly, unsure if it even “counted.”

Early 2024
Discovered I’d been misdiagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. That false diagnosis had been influencing our fertility timeline all along.

Early 2024
We met with a second fertility doctor. Instead of support, we were told we wouldn’t qualify for retrieval or testing until I lost weight. I left the appointment devastated.

Late 2024
I found a new OBGYN. A doctor closer to our home base and with over 20+ years of experience.

Early 2025
More bloodwork, new tests. Still searching.

Mid 2025
An ultrasound revealed endometriosis, fibroids, and a cyst on my right ovary. Another layer, another level of complication.

July 10, 2025
Consultation with new OB to discuss all fertility testing, including minor abnormalities in ultrasound. No diagnosable cause for infertility. Now marked with the diagnosis “unexplained infertility” and referred to CCRM to begin IVF.

September 16, 2025
First appointment with new fertility doctor at CCRM.

We’ve walked through a lot to get here. And while the path hasn’t been easy, it’s still ours—and we’re still on it.